While ‘understanding yourself’ might not seem like a hot topic, it’s important. With enough self-understanding, the weird shit you do will start to make sense. And from there, you can either accept it or improve… Read More »6 Reliable Resources to Help You Deeply Understand Yourself
Your Dark Side
Are you kind to yourself at all?? When we have any type of problems in our lives, we tend to be harsher on ourselves. And that’s not good. It exasperates the problems. And in the… Read More »Are You Kind to Yourself While Having Problems?
The term “crippling depression” isn’t clinically recognized. And it’s not a medical nor psychological term. But we use it when the shit hits the fan with our depression. You know, when depression takes a toll… Read More »Crippling Depression: How to Have a Fighting Chance
Before You Read This Article
This is not the type of article in which I will tell you, “Fuck your family!! They are a bunch of crazy fucking people!!!”
And, equally, this is not the type of article where I will tell you to “just forgive them” and be their slave and pet.
I understand that, as Tolstoy pointed out, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
Your hatred towards your family can be different than the person next to you.
Therefore, don’t expect to find one solution for all the family problems.Read More »I Hate My Toxic Family: Advice to the Black Sheeps
Have you ever been to a war before?
Most people reading this probably have not.
So let me ask you another question.
Have you ever watched a movie about wars?
You know, where there are soldiers in the field and a lot of dead bodies and body’s parts.Read More »Do You Feel Safe And Secure In Your Life?
1. Not Asking For Help
When it comes to self-development, there is a lot to be said about the “lone wolf” mentality. Or the “being independent” attitude.
But it all comes down to this: you are strong and you can do it on your own. You don’t need anybody’s help (even, or especially, those who care about you). In fact, needing someone’s help means that you are weak.
And that is garbage. This is a claim that I can support, in fact.Read More »3 Insecure Behaviors Most People Think Are Good
I’m a perfectionist. And, no, that’s not a good thing.
I used to think that being a perfectionist is linked to being a genius and doing an excellent work.
But it’s not.
I would do anything to avoid being seen as imperfect. Not because I want to do an excellent job; because I’m afraid people wouldn’t like the imperfect version of me.
Hard confession. I wish I can omit that last paragraph. But no, I want to suck and I want to do something imperfectly.
Read More »This Happens When You Give Yourself the Permission to Screw Up
I’m not here to promise you that all your dreams will come true.
I’m not here to promise you that you’ll be that super confident, super attractive, super rich, super famous, super funny, or super anything.
And I’m not here to guarantee anything. What you want out of life? Who knows if you’ll get it. Who do you want to be? It’s hard to think about it when you’re living the life of who you don’t want to be.
Maybe, in the end, it doesn’t even matter.
Self-compassion quick test:
How do you deal with yourself after making a mistake, after failing, after feeling like you’re small, and after screwing up generally?
If you practice self-compassion, you’ll still feel bad but you’ll not give up on yourself. You’ll not feel worthless or useless. And more importantly, you’ll get up and do something about your situation.
That will contribute to the way you see yourself positively.
If you’re not practicing self-compassion, it’ll be totally different.
Look, I get it. You want to have a high self-esteem.
I mean, who wants to be labeled as having low self-esteem?
And it makes sense. The strategy is to boost your self-esteem in order to have a better life.
But, how good is that strategy in real life?
Let me tell you, and argue with you, that it’s not that effective actually.Read More »Should You Have A High Self-esteem?