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'I hate my family'!' said the sad child.

I Hate My Family: How to Survive with This Hatred

Before You Read This Article

This is not the type of article in which I will tell you, “Fuck your family!! They are a bunch of crazy fucking people!!!”

And, equally, this is not the type of article where I will tell you to “just forgive them” and be their slave and pet.

I understand that, as Tolstoy pointed out, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

Your hatred towards your family can be different than the person next to you.

Therefore, don’t expect to find one solution for all the family problems.Read More »I Hate My Family: How to Survive with This Hatred

3 Insecure Behaviors Most People Think Are Good

1. Not Asking For Help

When it comes to self-development, there is a lot to be said about the “lone wolf” mentality. Or the “being independent” attitude.

But it all comes down to this: you are strong and you can do it on your own. You don’t need anybody’s help (even, or especially, those who care about you). In fact, needing someone’s help means that you are weak.

And that is garbage. This is a claim that I can support, in fact.Read More »3 Insecure Behaviors Most People Think Are Good

This Happens When You Give Yourself the Permission to Screw Up

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I’m a perfectionist. And, no, that’s not a good thing.

I used to think that being a perfectionist is linked to being a genius and doing an excellent work.

But it’s not.

It’s linked to fear, shame, and seeking approval.

I would do anything to avoid being seen as imperfect. Not because I want to do an excellent job; because I’m afraid people wouldn’t like the imperfect version of me.

Hard confession. I wish I can omit that last paragraph. But no, I want to suck and I want to do something imperfectly.
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Why You Should Never Give Up On Yourself

Never give up on yourself

I’m not here to promise you that all your dreams will come true.

I’m not here to promise you that you’ll be that super confident, super attractive, super rich, super famous, super funny, or super anything.

And I’m not here to guarantee anything. What you want out of life? Who knows if you’ll get it. Who do you want to be? It’s hard to think about it when you’re living the life of who you don’t want to be.

Maybe, in the end, it doesn’t even matter.

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Why Self-compassion Is The Best Thing You Can Ever Do

Self-compassion quick test:

How do you deal with yourself after making a mistake, after failing, after feeling like you’re small, and after screwing up generally?

If you practice self-compassion, you’ll still feel bad but you’ll not give up on yourself. You’ll not feel worthless or useless. And more importantly, you’ll get up and do something about your situation.

That will contribute to the way you see yourself positively.

If you’re not practicing self-compassion, it’ll be totally different.

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