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I Hate My Life: Here is How to Hate it a Little Bit Less

One day, I was sitting with one of my friends. ‘I hate my life,’ he cried

“Why am I living? I’m such a loser who just sleeps and eats.” He stated that and started comparing himself to a pan saying that it was better than him.

I wasn’t better than him back then. Maybe not even better than that pan as well. I hated my life also. I had different (and less extreme) ways to describe it, like “my life sucks.” But it’s still a form of hatred towards life in general and towards mine specifically.

What I’ve learned is that there are stages of hatred towards one’s life. Read More

I feel nothing

I Feel Nothing: How to Beat Emotional Numbness

Have you ever looked into the mirror, saw a strange face, and whispered to yourself, “I feel nothing”?

It was like you weren’t happy or sad. You weren’t depressed or excited, and sure you weren’t miserable or satisfied. You just felt nothing.

You look at all the people who complain about their emotions and how miserable they are. And you wonder what’s wrong with those people.

And you look at those who describe their emotions as euphoric feelings and you have no clue how that feels like. Read More

How to NOT Solve Your Emotional Problems

Let’s first state the fact that all of us have our own emotional problems. That is, all of us are little crazy to some extent.

None of us is an exception.

Some suffer more than others. Some manage to cope with their problems in a good way.

The goal is not to totally eliminate our emotional problems; the goal is to handle them in a healthier way.

That said, I’ve seen that there are unhealthy patterns which will make you crazier and more neurotic. Patterns that are unhealthy for your emotional health. Read More

How to Have a Healthy Self-esteem Without Affirmations

Affirmations suck!

You can’t get your mind to believe in something without offering it some evidence first.

I’m not even going to go into the fact that affirmations can be bad for you. In terms of developing a healthy self-esteem, affirmations can do more harm than good.

Your mind a) already has a specific belief about who you are. b) has evidence (real or imaginary) to support this.

And the process of challenging those evidence-based-beliefs includes more than repeating positive beliefs and words.

Your mind will hardly believe in positive affirmations because a) it already has opposing, conflicting beliefs. b) it has nothing to prove it. It will consider them as lies and, as a result, it will make you feel worse about yourself.

Not only are you a piece of shit. You are a liar, too.

To induce real change, you need actions. Real actions that can be considered as evidence to support the healthy beliefs you want to have about yourself.  Read More

What If You Are Not Good Enough?

It is a scary idea. Ugly, even.

And by “it”, I mean the painful, dreadful idea that you are probably not good enough. And I believe that your imagination is, ironically, good enough at finding other adjectives than “good” to fill in. Adjectives like, “smart, tall, pretty, rich …etc.”

But I bet you have thought of it before, pondered on it, and almost believed it one night when you were feeling very vulnerable and weak. Read More

Stop assuming people don’t like you to solve 90% of your social problems.

This is a guest post by Timon. He writes about social skills and confidence. Check his bio under the article.

You go to the coffee shop, grab your coffee from the counter and are about to take a seat.

What’s that? Hey, that girl is reading Harry Potter. Awesome, you love those books!

Let’s have a chat with her.

Or,.. no,.. she will probably not like that. She is reading, right? She won’t like you anyway.

Never mind. You’ll just take your coffee and go.

Would be cool if you could have talked though, but she won’t like you anyway.

Why doesn’t anybody like you Read More

Stop Being A Frog in Your Relationships

In the 19 century, a few experiments were aimed at observing frogs’ reactions to slowly heated water.

They found that frogs tend to not jump out of the pan if the water was heated slowly but steady.

The frogs will get used to the water’s temperature. As soon as they do, the temperature increases slightly (and almost in a subtle way). When it increases, they get used to the new temperature…

…Until the water reaches the boiling point. That’s when the shit breaks loose! Read More

Do You Need A Reason To Appreciate Yourself?

I pondered on this question for a while, “do I need a reason to appreciate myself or can I just appreciate myself unconditionally?”

Appreciating yourself is a byproduct of a healthy self-esteem.

I couldn’t believe those who claim that we can appreciate ourselves just like that. Without any reason. You can’t sit there and appreciate your lazy ass without doing anything with your life! Read More

How to Raise My Self-esteem If I Hate Myself

I came across an online forum where someone had asked, “How can I raise my self-esteem?”

This person had many questions in mind while asking this question.

He is probably wondering why on earth he ended up having a low self-esteem. He is wondering how he can have a high self-esteem. And maybe, just maybe, he has a little voice in his head wondering if he actually can have a high self-esteem after all the bad things he knows about himself. Read More