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Stop Being A Frog in Your Relationships

In the 19 century, a few experiments were aimed at observing frogs’ reactions to slowly heated water.

They found that frogs tend to not jump out of the pan if the water was heated slowly but steady.

The frogs will get used to the water’s temperature. As soon as they do, the temperature increases slightly (and almost in a subtle way). When it increases, they get used to the new temperature…

…Until the water reaches the boiling point. That’s when the shit breaks loose! Read More

Do You Need A Reason To Appreciate Yourself?

I pondered on this question for a while, “do I need a reason to appreciate myself or can I just appreciate myself unconditionally?”

Appreciating yourself is a byproduct of a healthy self-esteem.

I couldn’t believe those who claim that we can appreciate ourselves just like that. Without any reason. You can’t sit there and appreciate your lazy ass without doing anything with your life! Read More

I hate myself

How to Raise My Self-esteem If I Hate Myself

I came across an online forum where someone had asked, “How can I raise my self-esteem?”

This person had many questions in mind while asking this question.

He is probably wondering why on earth he ended up having a low self-esteem. He is wondering how he can have a high self-esteem. And maybe, just maybe, he has a little voice in his head wondering if he actually can have a high self-esteem after all the bad things he knows about himself. Read More

How to Find Your Way Out of The Negative Emotions

“Heard joke once: Man goes to doctor. Says he’s depressed. Says life seems harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in a threatening world where what lies ahead is vague and uncertain. Doctor says, “Treatment is simple. Great clown Pagliacci is in town tonight. Go and see him. That should pick you up.” Man bursts into tears. Says, “But doctor…I am Pagliacci.” ― Alan Moore, Watchmen

I’m sure you’ve experienced some, if not a lot of, negative emotions throughout your life.

And I’m also sure you wished you could make them stop or go away.

If you are like the majority of people, me included, you’ve tried to numb them using anything from social media to drugs or socializing or even becoming a workaholic.

That, of course, didn’t work. Read More

Are You Living In A Circus?

The circus is fun.

Well, I don’t know much about circuses and this article isn’t about judging the circus and its people.

However, there’s an imaginary circus that we sometimes create and live inside of it.

We create it inside of our minds, of course. And we act as if we’re living in it, and as a result our general behavior is guided by the fact that we’re living in that circus.

In terms of self-esteem, it’s bad to live in such circus.

And here’s the catch.

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How Do People With High (or Low) Self-esteem See The World?

Contrary to the common belief, a healthy self-image isn’t that shiny or glamorous.

It’s something good. But it doesn’t always feel good. And it doesn’t always come across as something good.

In many cases, you have to go through a lot of pain in order to reach that highly sought-after healthy self-image and high self-esteem.

And you will not always have it. You will still have insecurities and flaws and shortcomings.

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