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This Happens When You Give Yourself the Permission to Screw Up

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I’m a perfectionist. And, no, that’s not a good thing.

I used to think that being a perfectionist is linked to being a genius and doing an excellent work.

But it’s not.

It’s linked to fear, shame, and seeking approval.

I would do anything to avoid being seen as imperfect. Not because I want to do an excellent job; because I’m afraid people wouldn’t like the imperfect version of me.

Hard confession. I wish I can omit that last paragraph. But no, I want to suck and I want to do something imperfectly.
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I Don’t Deserve Happiness: Joy Is As Scary As Misery

Joy can be as scary as misery

In one study, they found that positive experiences can lead to a relapse in drug’s addict just as much as negative experiences can.

In other words, you can have a bad and a stressful day at work and then relapse. And you can also have a good day where everything goes right and relapse. Weird, but there is an explanation.

There are 2 explanations, actually. The first one is that you are having a good day and a lot of good things are happening, so you want to celebrate. The second explanation is that, in fact, joy is as scary and as painful as misery is.

I would like to stick to the second explanation. Here is why. Read More

How Do You Feel About Your Flaws (And Why It Matters)

How do you feel about your flaws?
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(Caution: reading this article might be painful. Some of the stuff written below can make some people upset. After all, who wants to read about their flaws and shortcomings? Only those who want to handle them in a healthy way. So, don’t read on unless you are truly committed to growing and improving).

Should you love your flaws or accept them?

Or should you work hard on changing them?

Well, it’s not easy to say. Every case is different.

However, what really matters is the way you feel about having those flaws. This will either destroy your self-esteem or build it.

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