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This Happens When You Give Yourself the Permission to Screw Up

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I’m a perfectionist. And, no, that’s not a good thing.

I used to think that being a perfectionist is linked to being a genius and doing an excellent work.

But it’s not.

It’s linked to fear, shame, and seeking approval.

I would do anything to avoid being seen as imperfect. Not because I want to do an excellent job; because I’m afraid people wouldn’t like the imperfect version of me.

Hard confession. I wish I can omit that last paragraph. But no, I want to suck and I want to do something imperfectly.
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I Don’t Deserve Happiness: Joy Is As Scary As Misery

Joy can be as scary as misery

In one study, they found that positive experiences can lead to a relapse in drug’s addict just as much as negative experiences can.

In other words, you can have a bad and a stressful day at work and then relapse. And you can also have a good day where everything goes right and relapse. Weird, but there is an explanation.

There are 2 explanations, actually. The first one is that you are having a good day and a lot of good things are happening, so you want to celebrate. The second explanation is that, in fact, joy is as scary and as painful as misery is.

I would like to stick to the second explanation. Here is why. Read More